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Finding purpose and meaning

Finding purpose and meaning in life is one of life’s greatest challenges we all face and it’s important because it gives us drive and reasons to get out of bed in the mornings.

We achieve more if we have a goal or a plan to work towards.

 

life is a challenge
How will you respond?

A plan helps us to focus and bring other skills and experience to bear on what we are trying to do.

It helps to have it down in black and white to as a specific goal to achieve.

It may need a change in how we view the situation or how we might achieve that goal. We may even need to change the reason why we want that goal.

If we are not achieving that goal whatever it is, maybe it’s time to reassess the reasons why you want it and change it to a more compelling reason.

The meaning we want it (whatever the goal is) can change depending on what we attach to it, so it is possible to change the meaning and get a faster outcome or goal.

So focus and intention is important to keeping our purpose in view because our resources are sometimes limited and need to be used effectively.

Now if the goal is too big, break it down to several smaller achievable goals so you get some feedback and confidence and a sense of achievement along the way.

Is any of this making sense to you?

Enough rambling from me.

Takeaway message is…anytime you can change the purpose and meaning to what you want by changing your thinking so what you tell yourself is important. The actions you take are even more critical to achieving your goal.

If you need any help with achieving your goals, call me, Colin 0419568043. or email slater@internode.on.net

What’s been your experience with achieving your goals?

 

 

 

 

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How to have better relationships

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Better relationships are a choice

Want a better relationship?

Relationship on the rocks and everyday conversations are a struggle? 

  • Everyday is a constant hassle, fighting over money, whose right or wrong and respect is well, lacking.
  • Time together is exhausting.
  • You may feel like negativity is just under the surface and your communication is not getting through.
    You may be stuck in an addiction, or in some destructive emotional behaviour.

Focusing on “problem” only gives you more problem! Looking beyond problem is where the gold is.

If you want better relationships you do have to work at keeping them healthy and growing

Here are some tips to get moving again into a more healthy relationship

  • Firstly find a suitable time and space when your partner is most receptive, sit down with them ,without distractions and listen to them.
  • Find out what is going on.
  • Sometimes it’s about listening and not trying to “fix” it.
  • Sometimes people just want to be heard.
    • You cannot get out of a “stuck” state or unhealthy relationship  by using the same thinking that got you “stuck” in the first place. So you need to change your way of thinking or your mindset.
    • The first thing to do is to accept that the past is exactly that, gone finished and not able to change. This brings you to the present where you can change your thinking, your choices and your actions. The present is where you can change the meaning you give to those events and release you to get on with your life and improving your relationships.
  • To do this you will need to focus on what you want and the reasons you want it.

Look for solutions that suit both parties and you can have better relationships.

If you need some help with this or anything else that’s bugging you give me a call Colin 0419468043

You may find this article useful as a followup to help with your focus –https://www.yourcoachingsolutions.com.au/what-you-focus…s-what-you-get/