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How to have better relationships

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Better relationships are a choice

Want a better relationship?

Relationship on the rocks and everyday conversations are a struggle? 

  • Everyday is a constant hassle, fighting over money, whose right or wrong and respect is well, lacking.
  • Time together is exhausting.
  • You may feel like negativity is just under the surface and your communication is not getting through.
    You may be stuck in an addiction, or in some destructive emotional behaviour.

Focusing on “problem” only gives you more problem! Looking beyond problem is where the gold is.

If you want better relationships you do have to work at keeping them healthy and growing

Here are some tips to get moving again into a more healthy relationship

  • Firstly find a suitable time and space when your partner is most receptive, sit down with them ,without distractions and listen to them.
  • Find out what is going on.
  • Sometimes it’s about listening and not trying to “fix” it.
  • Sometimes people just want to be heard.
    • You cannot get out of a “stuck” state or unhealthy relationship  by using the same thinking that got you “stuck” in the first place. So you need to change your way of thinking or your mindset.
    • The first thing to do is to accept that the past is exactly that, gone finished and not able to change. This brings you to the present where you can change your thinking, your choices and your actions. The present is where you can change the meaning you give to those events and release you to get on with your life and improving your relationships.
  • To do this you will need to focus on what you want and the reasons you want it.

Look for solutions that suit both parties and you can have better relationships.

If you need some help with this or anything else that’s bugging you give me a call Colin 0419468043

You may find this article useful as a followup to help with your focus –https://www.yourcoachingsolutions.com.au/what-you-focus…s-what-you-get/

 

 

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The past can hurt you or you can learn from it!


(Thank you Walt Disney and Irmie83)

The past can hurt you or you can learn from it!

Mistakes or failures in most cases have lessons for us if we choose to learn from them.
Often we allow these things to get in the way and stop us from growing to be more.
And yes the pain lingers, however the meaning we choose to give those
experiences is more important as this is what shapes and allows us to
become more self-aware and resourceful.

Think about it, when have you learnt the most important lessons in your life… I call them defining
moments and I’ll bet it was when you were challenged or found the going tough and confronting.
My message here is look for the gift , the lesson when those challenges arise and your life will
most likely be richer and deeper for the experience and what you attach to it .

If you would like the enlightening experience of discovering what some of your defining moments mean
I’d be happy to help you unpack them with you.
This can happen during a consultation with me.
Give me a call to arrange your best time with Colin 0419 568 043

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https://www.yourcoachingsolutions.com.au/importance-present/