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You are not Broken or Damaged

 

The choice is yours to make

I get a little concerned when I hear people say they are broken or they need fixing or they are “damaged”.

Yes they may had had some traumatic experiences which have shaken them to the very core or challenged their important beliefs or values. Yet everything that has ever happened to them, influences who they are and how they have developed their personality,  since they were a child.  now as an adult , they have a choice to choose what those and any event means to them in their world or “map”.

Those beliefs may be resourceful or they may be limiting or holding you back from achieving the results or outcome you want.

I do not believe that people are broken, they maybe disconnected or confused about which direction to go next, or what’s important in their lives., or that they can trust their inner wisdom or strength. In fact I believe people have everything they need inside them right now, they just have to find ways to reconnect to it, or talk with someone who can, like a life coach.

How do you do this you ask?

Firstly by self awareness, by meditation and listening to the quiet voice in your subconscious mind that knows best. Quieten the chatter of everyday life and give your self time to listen and just be yourself. Once you have that under control, I’d like you to consider this one.

I’d  like to put up a model I’ve seen recently from an NLP coach.

 EVENT + RESPONSE = OUTCOME or RESULT

What this means is that everything that happens to us and the response or meaning we give it, determines the outcome or the result that we get. If we examine our responses and meaning we give to the events in our lives, choosing those which move us towards our goals or outcomes, puts us in a better position of influence and control of your life.

Wouldn’t you rather be in a position where you ask yourself “How can I learn from this experience?”

“What’s the lesson here?” as traumatic or as dramatic as whatever is going on in your life, look for ways to move forward to beyond the event. you have more choices than you may at first think you have.

Some of these concepts may be new to you and you may not grasp them yet . Give it time  and try it out , I’m curious what you find.

Let me know if this information has helped you.

If you need more help with that contact Colin  0419 568 043

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Get Courageous

Gratitude opens your heart space

 

Be grateful for all your experiences as you were growing up, whether in the country or the city.

Each day is a wonderful journey of discovery for a child, a day of adventure, discovering what is in the wide world. Sure there may have been chores, however there was time to explore the world and all it offered, shaping the life you live now.

Be grateful for parents, family, friends, teachers and mentors, all of whom influence or shape who you are today.

It is both humbling and inspiring to experience your humanness with all its imperfections and magnificence.

Be grateful for your life, what has been, is now and is to come – with all its possibilities.

 

Celebrate, because gratitude when expressed out loud and often is a very powerful force.
It opens up the ‘heart’ space, broadens your thinking and your self-awareness.
Get courageous and practice gratitude daily so that you do and have all that you are meant to be. Remember to say thank you, often. You are truly blessed.

Colin Slater

This article appears in the book ; The Gratitude Book Project: Celebrating 365 Days of Gratitude

Created by Donna Kozic. It can be seen and bought at Amazon.com via this link

http://amzn.to/ZEeAP8

My article appears in March -2013, page 90, in the above book.

Enjoy and take time to reflect on what you are grateful about.

Try it, you will be surprised at the result.